Friday, July 13, 2012

Domestic victories

There was a time, when my kids were young and hadn't yet become corrupted by chain restaurants, that a bowl of cherries canned by moi was considered to be a pretty okay dessert.
I threw out the last jar of black cherries a couple of years ago, finally admitting to myself that they would never be eaten. They were probably ten years old at that point. It pained me to do it, but reality is a harsh mistress.

The dear old cherry tree won itself a reprieve this year by providing a medium-sized crop. We gave a lot away, but I managed to freeze a few bags. The grand-kids will eat almost any fruit in the winter when it is frozen. 
Sneaky Nana.

I used to pit cherries with a little hand-pitter. It was painful.
I was very relieved when I found this device on clearance a few years ago.


Which was pretty stupid of me when you think about it, because they're only about $20 full price.
[Although there is one that pits ten cherries at a time and sells for a mere $300!]
Sometimes I endure a lot of pain because of my frugal principles!

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I've been wanting to make a batch of laundry detergent for a long time. My big Costco bottle just ran out, so I decided it was time. I went to Winco and bought the necessary ingredients.


Plus a bar of Fels Naptha soap.

I made a small batch, as I'm not sure if I want to use the dry or liquid recipe in the long-term.
First, I finely grated one bar of low-sudsing soap. I used a third of the Fels Naptha bar and two-thirds of a bar of Ivory soap, as I had scored some free at Safeway last week.


Then  I stirred in a cup of the washing soda and half a cup of the borax.
Make sure you get borax, not boric acid.
And washing soda, not baking soda.
The wrong ingredient could be catastrophic.


I am told that the grated soap gets dry and crumbly as it sits in the container, so the mixture becomes finer. 
Use one tablespoon per load in your top- or front-loading washing machine, two if the load is particularly grimy.
There you have it: laundry soap for a penny or two a load.
And a minimum of effort and dirty dishes.


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The next project on the agenda is to make some calendula balm. 
Hence, the baking sheet of dried calendula blossoms.


My flowerbeds are overflowing with calendulas that self-seeded prolifically this year.
I seems a handy idea to put them to good use.

The petals were easy to pull off after they were dry.
Hint: don't try to remove petals from fresh calendula blooms.
You will hate yourself and your sticky fingers.
All that was left in the end was this little pile of green stubs.


The jar of dried petals sits on my kitchen counter, awaiting my next spurt of energy.


An infusion of calendula and coconut oil, the balm is reputed to be good for all kinds of skin ailments, including bug bites.
Instructions will follow.

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I spent this morning garage-sale hopping with my friends, Barb and Lori. It was garage-sale heaven in our town today. The weather was sunny-but-not-too-hot and signs everywhere proclaimed "HUGE garage sale!"
Some of the signs were lying through their teeth, but I found a pressure cooker for a reasonable price, which I've been wanting for a long time.  We all found lots of great stuff and we went home happy.

I'd love to hear about your domestic triumphs. You can share them below.
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I'd love it.

Thursday, July 12, 2012

Grateful

Meet Wrangler, my new grand-dog. 
He belongs to Charlie and Sam and he comes to romp on our lawn occasionally.
Sunday evening was one of those times.
He is a beauty, a weimaraner with a soulful stare and an appetite for Greek yogurt.


The local kids were all here and we ate several varieties of grilled pizza. 
It is the only way to cook pizza on a hot, summer's evening. 
The sky was all kinds of gorgeous.


Natalie and Jenny were bonding on the back lawn. 
Natalie whispers in Jenny's ear.


Wrangler loves to nap on Daddy's lap.


Silly old Nana woke him up with the camera flash.
Honestly, can't a dog take a nap in peace around here?


When I downloaded pictures to my computer, somebody had taken a few extras.


I love having our family together. 
It is rarely perfect, but it is heavenly.
In its own strange way.

Friday, July 6, 2012

Battling on

Well, I wasn't going to give you a blow-by-blow account of the rest of our trip to Virginia, but then I thought to myself, Self, this is your journal and you know you will forget unless you write about it. 
So here I is.

We landed in Norfolk and visited the Botanical Gardens the first day. The next morning, we drove up to Richmond, where we would spend the next three days. On the way to Richmond, we checked out the Naval Museum and Yorktown.

The Naval Museum in Norfolk was more interesting than I expected. It is contained in a larger building that houses Nauticus, a maritime science museum geared towards children. The Naval Museum is free; Nauticus is not.
The museum covers the history of the U.S. Navy from its inception in the early days of the Revolutionary War to the present. There are many actual relics of war...


...as well as models of battleships. The detail is quite excruciating. And if you're lucky, like me, you will keep bumping into a cute guy wearing a Coastguard hat!


As we walked around the museum, we had exchanged a few words with another couple. The lady told us that her grandfather made this cigar holder. He had served on the Battleship Wisconsin, which is berthed outside Nauticus.


And here it is. We were going to look around the ship but were accosted on the way in and told that we needed to pay the Nauticus entrance fee in order to board.
We declined.
But it is a grand ship. It is one of the largest and last battleships ever built by the U.S. Navy.


The biggest flag I have ever seen hangs in the foyer.


On to Yorktown, on the Chesapeake Bay, site of the last battle of the Revolutionary War. Here, General Lord Cornwallis surrendered to American (led by George Washington) and French (led by Comte de Rochambeau) forces on October 19th, 1781. There is an interesting account of the battle here. Washington pulled a sneaky trick on the British, but it is unlikely that he would have won the decisive battle if it were not for the French. I told Jeff he needs to be nicer to the French. 
Our walking tour guide was inspired and passionate. He added vivid details to the battle story so that even I was intrigued. We found that most of the guides are history majors who really know their topics.


We walked on the very ground that British troops sweated and fought upon in the fall of 1781. It is an eerie thing, imagining those men, so many years ago, fighting and dying upon the same redoubt that I lay down and rested on this humid day in June.

There is a visitor's centre in the park and it houses General Washington's tent. The photo is rubbish, but I felt rather reverent as I stood before the tent.


After visiting the Yorktown National Cemetery, where many of the photos in the last post were taken, we moseyed on over to the town. It was late afternoon and we were starving, so we found a modest little restaurant and filled our tummies. I will forbear from telling you about the almost-naked old guy who came into the restaurant for a soda and stood at the counter flexing his tanned muscles and then went outside and stood on the beach and posed some more. It was disturbing.


We hung around for a few hours because we saw some posters for a concert that was planned for the evening. A good time was had by all. Jeff and I even danced a bit. We shared a bench with a sweet older couple. The man scared me a little because his dyed mustache and eyebrows reminded me of fuzzy caterpillars.
Behold, the Cupid Shuffle.
A hip-hop line dance.
Yes, you read me right. It was hard to catch the hip-hop intonation as performed by the band, but hip-hop it was. I wondered why a few older African American ladies were doing a country line dance! That explains it.


We drove down to Jamestown from Richmond the next day. Jamestown, across the peninsula from Yorktown and a little bit north, sits on the James River. It is the site of the first permanent settlement of Europeans in America. We watched glass blowers at work and I bought a nice little condiment jar.
I'm a sucker for glass.
The settlers established a glass factory so that they could export glass to Europe, as there was a greater demand for glass than their existing factories could supply.


We were in the middle of a heat wave, but the sky was threatening.


Excavation continues at Jamestown, searching for information about those first settlers.
Jeff wanted to join the dig.


This fort is where Pocahontas played as a child and was later taken hostage during Anglo-American hostilities and held for ransom. Her father, Chief Powhatan, refused to comply with the demands of the English and Pocahontas remained in the fort. A year later, she reportedly had an opportunity to speak to her father and she rebuked him for valuing her "less than old swords, pieces and axes" and chose to remain with the English. She later converted to Christianity and married John Rolfe. Nancy Reagan is among her descendants.

Jeff noticed that the hands on her statue are shiny, unlike the rest of her oxidized body.
We, too, brushed her hand as we passed by.


The threatened storm hit with a vengeance as we started towards the exit, so we took shelter.
It was a doozy.


I saw a sign that advertised the free ferry to Scotland.
We took it.
Why not? I said.


We find ferry trips to be quite boring.
How about you?


Jeff was very disappointed to find himself still on American soil, but there you have it.
Scotland, VA.
We soldiered on to Surry (the spelling bothers me) and found an excellent restaurant that provided us with a taste of Southern cooking. 
Country ham, baked potato, and apple fritter for me.
What, you thought I would order broccoli when an apple fritter was offered?
Ha!


Jeff had country-fried chicken and hush-puppies. 
I think I am in love. Hush puppies and I get along really well.

The next day found us in the Civil War battlefields of Spotslyvania, Fredricksburg, and Chancellorville. The highlight for Jeff was finding a record of his ancestor, Thomas Ward Osborne, who fought in some of these battles and went on to become a state senator.


This is the site of the sunken road in Fredricksburg, a particularly bad battle for the north. The Confederates had a strong position behind this wall on the sunken road and on the hill behind it. Wave after wave of Union soldiers was sent up the slope on December 13th, 1862, only to be shot down. When the next morning dawned, about 8,000 men lay dead or grievously wounded in front of the wall.


Chancellorville.
We had an excellent tour guide, but, to be honest, my mind was mush by this point.
Let me just say that the cannons on this side of the field were firing against those little tiny cannons that you can see in the distance.


The second-bloodiest day of the Civil War took place here on May 3rd, 1863.
And I'm not even sure who won.


Another awesome tour guide.


So, here's what I think.
You should go visit these historical sites.
You should take every walking tour for which you have time.
You should take a hankie.
And you should not go during a heat wave.

Friday, June 29, 2012

Bivouac of the Dead

Over three days, we visited the Naval Museum in Norfolk, the settlement of Jamestown, and the battlefields of Yorktown, Spotsylvania, Chancellorville, and Fredricksburg. By Friday afternoon, my mind was awash in bloody statistics of men dead in battle. The numbers were overwhelming. Over 50,000 men dead at Gettysburg. Almost 30,000 at Fredricksburg. Over 8,500 American men died in British prisons in the Revolutionary War.


How can you even take in numbers like that? By the afternoon of the second day I was ready to declare that I couldn't take one more battle site tour. My heart hurt and I did not want to hear one more sad story.
Plus, Virginia was in the middle of a heat wave and I was tired of being hot and sweaty.


And then, on the third day, I reluctantly tagged along on some walking tours around the Civil War sites in the vicinity of Fredricksburg. When you are standing on the very field where tens of thousands of men died, it is impossible to remain hard of heart. If, I thought to myself, I cannot stand here and honour these men in my heart and shed a tear or two for the lives they didn't get to live, for what purpose did they die? It matters not for which side they fought. They all experienced the horror of battle, the cries of pain, the terror of a futile attack, the cold, the heat, the deprivation of war. 


And so, I drank it in.
I hid behind monuments and cried a little.
I took photographs like a woman possessed.
I listened to every word of the National Park tour guides, who were passionate about their subjects and brought the stories of the battles and the men who fought them to life. 
If you ever go back east and visit these sites, take the free walking tours. Trust me, you will be glad you did. 

And so, I paid homage to all of the men who have died in wars that were started by men in high places. And to those who came home but were irreparably damaged.
And to the families they left behind.


There is a poem that is found in Confederate cemeteries all over the South. It was written by a man named Theodore O'Hara to honour Kentuckians who died in the Mexican War of 1846, but has been used to remember the fallen on both sides of the Civil War. It is also quoted on the gateway to Arlington National Cemetery.


The muffled drum's sad roll has beat
The soldier's last tattoo;
No more on Life's parade shall meet
That brave and fallen few.
On fame's eternal camping ground
Their silent tents to spread,
And glory guards, with solemn round
The bivouac of the dead.


No rumor of the foe's advance
Now swells upon the wind;
Nor troubled thought at midnight haunts
Of loved ones left behind;
No vision of the marrow's strife
The warrior's dreams alarms;
No braying horn or screaming fife
At dawn shall call to arms.


Rest on embalmed and sainted dead!
Dear as the blood ye gave;
No impious footstep here shall tread
The herbage of your grave;
Nor shall your glory be forgot
While Fame her record keeps,
For honor points the hallowed spot
Where valor proudly sleeps.


Yon marble minstrel's voiceless stone
In deathless song shall tell,
When many a vanquished ago has flown,
The story how ye fell.
Nor wreck, nor change, nor winter's blight,
Nor time's remorseless doom,
Can dim one ray of glory's light
That guilds your deathless tomb.

 From: "Bivouac of the Dead"
By Theodore O'Hara, 1847


In memory of 
JOHN TURNER
who departed this life
October the 13th
in the Year of our Lord
1781
Aged 30 years
Ah cruel ball so sudden to disarm
And tare my tender husband
from my Arms
How can I grieve too much
what time shall end
by Mourning for so good
so kind a friend


There is no end to the stories.